Many people hesitate before doing a cord cutting ritual because of one question: “How does this affect the other person?”
It’s natural to wonder. Cord cutting is intimate. It arises in relationships where there has been love, intensity, or deep care. And so we worry: Will this hurt them? Will it sever love? Will they know I’ve done it?
The gentle truth is this: cord cutting does not harm the other person. It dissolves the unhealthy attachments between you, while leaving love and respect intact. What shifts is not their well-being, but the energetic ties that kept you drained or bound.
This page will walk you through what cord cutting really does, what it doesn’t do, and how both you and the other person may experience its effects.
What Does Cord Cutting Do?
Cord cutting is an energetic practice that clears away unhealthy attachments. These cords often form when our survival patterns — like people-pleasing, guilt, or fear of abandonment — create strong energetic links with another person.
What cord cutting does:
- Releases energetic hooks that drain your vitality.
- Returns your energy to your own body and field.
- Creates clarity in relationships, so you relate by choice, not compulsion.
What cord cutting does not do:
- It does not erase genuine love or memory.
- It does not punish or harm the other person.
- It does not sever every bond — only the unhealthy strands.
How Does Cord Cutting Affect the Other Person Spiritually?
Spiritually, cord cutting is not an attack. It’s an act of sovereignty.
For the other person, what dissolves is not their soul, not your history, but the energetic entanglements that may have been unconsciously binding you both. They may feel:
- Relief: if they too were caught in a draining dynamic.
- Distance: if they had been unconsciously relying on your energy.
- Neutrality: in many cases, they feel nothing at all.
Spiritually, cord cutting allows each person to stand more fully in their own wholeness. It clears away the noise so that if love or connection remains, it comes from freedom — not from old cords.
How Does Cord Cutting Affect the Other Person?
Here’s the direct answer: cord cutting does not harm the other person. It may change the dynamic between you, but never their well-being or their freedom.
What may shift:
- They might notice they can no longer pull on your energy in the same way.
- They may sense more space between you.
- The relationship may feel lighter, less entangled.
What remains untouched:
- Genuine love
- Shared memories
- Their ability to grow, heal, and live freely
Think of it this way: if two trees’ roots are tangled, both may struggle. Untangling them doesn’t kill either tree — it allows both to thrive in their own soil.
Side Effects of Cord Cutting
When cords are released, energy moves. That movement can create temporary side effects — not just for you, but sometimes for the other person as well. These are not harmful, but they can feel intense.
For you:
- Grief: mourning what was lost or what never was
- Tiredness: as your body integrates the release
- Lightness: a surprising sense of freedom
For them:
- Confusion: if they were used to pulling on your energy
- Distance: noticing the connection feels different
- Neutrality: often, no conscious awareness at all
These effects are temporary. With time, the release usually brings greater peace and clarity for both people.
A Gentle Practice for Release
If you’re worried about the other person, you can include them in your blessing:
“I release this cord with love. May you be free in your energy, and may I be free in mine. May what is true remain, and what is draining dissolve.”
Cord cutting done with love strengthens sovereignty on both sides. It is never about harm — it is about freedom.
FAQ on Cord Cutting and the Other Person
Does cord cutting hurt someone else?
No. Cord cutting does not cause pain or harm. It only clears the unhealthy attachments.
Will the other person feel it?
They may sense a shift in the dynamic, especially if they were unconsciously drawing energy from you. But this is not painful — it is simply your boundary becoming clear.
Does cord cutting end the relationship?
Not always. Sometimes it clears away the unhealthy threads and allows the relationship to continue in a more authentic, honest way.
What if I still love them?
Cord cutting does not erase love. It only dissolves what is draining. Love that is genuine will remain.
Closing: Cord Cutting as an Act of Love
At its heart, cord cutting is not rejection. It is an act of love — love for yourself, and often, love for the other person too. It says: “I honor what was between us. I choose to be whole in myself. And I allow you the same.”
If you’d like to explore more gentle practices for release and protection, you can wander into my 🌿 Full Guide on Removing Negative Energy where I share affirmations, rituals, crystals, and more.
Your unfolding is already underway — and it’s beautiful.