Short answer: sometimes. Laws vary by country and region. Some jurisdictions treat ongoing control and intimidation as coercive control or as part of domestic abuse. Others address specific behaviors under different laws (harassment, threats, stalking, child abuse, employment law). This page offers a plain-language map so you can find the right help where you live.
When it may be illegal (or part of a crime)
- Coercive control / domestic abuse frameworks: a pattern of isolation, surveillance, threats, or deprivation that removes your liberty.
- Harassment & stalking: repeated unwanted contact, monitoring, or threats on/offline.
- Threats, intimidation, blackmail: explicit threats to harm you, your job, your pets, or to publish private info.
- Child abuse / elder abuse: psychological harm to dependents; mandatory reporting may apply.
- Employment laws: bullying/harassment, discrimination, and retaliation for reporting concerns.
When it’s harmful but not clearly criminal
Some emotional abuse doesn’t fit neatly into criminal codes but can still qualify for civil protections like restraining/protective orders, custody considerations, HR actions, or school conduct processes. Documentation is key.
Practical next steps (wherever you live)
- Document: dates, quotes, screenshots, witnesses, and effects on work/health.
- Save safely: use a private email or cloud folder not accessible to the abuser/workplace.
- Check local options: domestic violence services, legal aid, worker centers, tenant/student conduct offices.
- Ask clear questions: “What protections exist for coercive control/harassment here?” “How do I request a protective order?”
Criminal vs civil vs workplace routes (quick map)
| Route | Typical use | Who to contact |
|---|---|---|
| Criminal | Threats, stalking, repeated harassment, some coercive control. | Police; domestic abuse unit; victim services. |
| Civil | Protective orders, divorce/custody, housing/school remedies. | Legal aid; family lawyer; court self-help center. |
| Workplace | Bullying, discrimination, retaliation. | HR; union; labor agency; employment lawyer. |
How to prepare to talk with police or a lawyer
- Bring a concise timeline and 3–5 strongest examples with evidence.
- State the pattern and impact: “I’m afraid; I’ve altered my routine; my child is exposed.”
- Ask for the next step in your area (report, protective order, safety plan, referral).
Safety resources (find local help)
- Search “[your city] + domestic violence services / legal aid / victim advocate.”
- If you cannot safely search at home, try a library or a friend’s device.
- Tell one trusted person your plan; set a code word for “call me now.”